Attachment Style Reflection Worksheet
A Comprehensive Worksheet for Self-Awareness, Emotional Resilience, and Secure Connections
Have you ever wondered why certain relationship dynamics feel so familiar—maybe even frustrating? Do you find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? Or maybe you struggle with jealousy, reassurance, or emotional overwhelm in your non-monogamous relationships?
If so, you’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken.
Understanding your attachment style can be a game-changer for how you show up in relationships, especially in Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), where multiple emotional connections can stir up deep patterns and vulnerabilities. The Attachment Style Reflection Worksheet is your guided tool for discovering how your early relational blueprint shapes the way you love, connect, and relate today.
This is a deep dive into your emotional world—designed to help you build secure, intentional relationships from the inside out.
🌿 What’s Inside?
This thoughtful and interactive worksheet is here to help you:
Discover your attachment style—anxious, avoidant, secure, or somewhere in between—and how it influences your behavior in ENM relationships
Reflect on your relationship history to uncover emotional patterns and turning points
Identify your emotional triggers and learn what activates your stress responses in romantic and sexual dynamics
Develop practical coping tools for self-soothing, managing jealousy, and building emotional resilience
Create an emotional map of your current relationships and define what safety, connection, and autonomy look like for you
Understand how your attachment style interacts with multiple partners—do you show up differently with each person? Why might that be?
Set goals for secure attachment, including small, doable practices to support healthier connections
Explore boundaries around intimacy and independence—how much closeness feels good to you, and when do you need space?
Navigate common ENM emotional challenges with greater confidence and clarity
Use reflection prompts and journaling to stay emotionally grounded and self-aware over time
💡 Why This Worksheet Matters
In ENM, emotions can run deep—fast. Whether you’re solo-poly, part of a polycule, in a hierarchical dynamic, or simply exploring, your attachment style shapes how you deal with:
Reassurance and emotional needs
Jealousy and compersion
Boundaries and autonomy
Vulnerability and trust
Conflict and repair
When you understand why you feel the way you do—and how to work with those feelings rather than against them—you build more emotional security, stronger communication, and more fulfilling relationships.
🩵 This Worksheet Is For You If:
You’ve ever felt overwhelmed, anxious, or emotionally distant in ENM relationships
You want to respond with understanding, not just reaction, when jealousy or insecurity shows up
You’re curious about your own emotional wiring and want to grow through reflection
You’re committed to building healthier, more intentional relationships rooted in trust and communication
You’re looking for real tools to help you move toward secure attachment, without shame or judgment
Whether you’re newer to ENM or have been practicing for years, this worksheet is your gentle guide toward clarity, compassion, and confidence.
💬 Ask Yourself:
What patterns keep showing up in my relationships?
When do I feel most safe, secure, and connected?
What do I really need when I feel triggered or overwhelmed?
How does my attachment style influence the way I navigate multiple relationships?
How can I take care of my emotional self and stay present with my partners?
🌱 Ready to Build Stronger, More Secure Relationships?
The Attachment Style Reflection Worksheet is a self-awareness practice. A way to hold space for your emotional growth while deepening your connections with others.
Download your copy now and begin your journey toward understanding, security, and empowered connection in your ENM relationships.
You deserve relationships that feel safe, expansive, and real. Let’s help you build them—one insight at a time.
