Thinking about opening your relationship, or did your partner just ask “what if we opened things up?” This starter guide for couples helps you work out whether ethical non-monogamy is right for you, how to ask for an open relationship kindly, which style might fit and how to handle the big feelings that come with it.
What’s inside
- Is opening up right for us?
- How to ask for an open relationship (with scripts)
- When your partner wants to open up and you are not sure
- Choosing a style that fits: open, swinging, polyamory and more
- Your first agreements
- Jealousy, insecurity and big feelings
- Dating as a couple: kind and ethical
- Your first date, and the days after
- When to pause, slow down or get support
- Toolkit: readiness check, 90-day plan and check-in tracker
- Final words
Who it’s for
Couples curious about ethical non-monogamy, partners who have just been asked to open up, and anyone in the first months of an open or polyamorous relationship.
How to use it
- Read it on your own first and answer the questions privately.
- Talk through one part at a time together.
- Use the toolkit to plan your first three months.
- Review together every couple of weeks at first.
Format
Printable PDF, A4, 21 pages, designed to print or fill in on a tablet. Time needed: about 2 hours to read, plus 4–6 shorter conversations. Instant download after purchase. For personal use.
This guide is for education and self-reflection. It isn’t a substitute for therapy or professional advice.
